“Wait, Is It a Date?”: An innovative new Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Welcome to
“Hold Off, So Is This A Night Out Together”
the podcast about queer matchmaking you won’t ever knew you always needed, hosted by me personals m4mly, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast came to be off Drew and I’s common love of vocals memos and deep discussions about dating. We have been delivering one another sound memos for only over per year today, heading deep on the circumstances Drew loves about online dating (individuals! enjoyable! flirting!) and the circumstances I hate about internet dating (folks! Fun! Flirting!). We had been having lots of fun, considerate, and insightful talks and honestly, it felt impolite to deprive the higher public ones!

Imagine all of us as your friendly community co-hosts, leading you through extremely certain queer relationship conundrums because truly, straight matchmaking podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG stories? How do you take very long, drawn out flirting to the next level? How much does it suggest to trust folks are into you? We are going to talk with the Autostraddle’s finest article writers, play some super certain video games, document on all of our pop society crushes of-the-moment as well as, make an effort to answer the eternal concern your occasions:

Wait…is this a night out together???

Listen to the teaser below and whet urge for food, and smash that “subscribe” option wherever okay podcasts are distributed, hence guaranteeing you a wonderful August 11th, once the basic recognized occurrence falls!

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And That I’m Christina. And this is

Wait, Is This a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast definitely specialized in practical question, “Wait, is it a night out together?”

Drew:

I am therefore thrilled to learn.

Theme tune plays

Christina:

Yeah. I think we’ve been on a trip to find out what exactly are dates and exactly what are maybe not times, as friends, as well as as a people, I think.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians exactly what all of our whole indealment is, like whatever you’re as much as within moment?

Drew:

Like which we have been?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I am able to get first. I’m Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, the web site. I actually do a lot of film and television criticism, and intercourse and online dating writing, and personal essays, and things that merge all of those things. I am trans and I am a lesbian, and I also feel i ought to add a 3rd thing because everything is in threes. Exactly what else? Just what else?

Christina:

Situations do embark on threes. You may have great hair.

Drew:

Oh, thanks.

Christina:

You really have amazing tresses, I think which is important.

Drew:

Those tend to be my personal identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great tresses.

Christina:

Those are your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I usually said that you might be a lady of hair knowledge. I have usually asserted that about yourself.

Drew:

Yeah. It is essential.

Christina:

Yeah. I will be Christina Tucker. I’m additionally a writer at Autostraddle, if you can accept it as true, who writes about… oh, let us simply say whatever pops into the mind. That’s truly the ambiance. Also a lesbian. I’m Black. I don’t know which otherwise Im.

Drew:

You additionally have great tresses.

Christina:

Ok last one, no, What i’m saying is, i do believe this is possibly a podcast of locks knowledge. Possibly that ought to be the tagline, “a podcast of locks knowledge.” I suppose the folks are likely wanting to know exactly how we have got to this podcast specifically.

Drew:

Yes. And like every neat thing in daily life — and also by that What i’m saying is, very, not too many — it began as a highdea, as something I delivered you in a vocals memo, high. And returning beyond that, we began delivering vocals memos together at the start of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I’m only browsing inform you like the thoughts that You will find, and then you may go after that and answer me personally, perhaps not respond to me, whatever. I am just like, this is myself becoming drive and obvious. Okay. Im someone who… i enjoy writing on matchmaking. It’s certainly one of my personal primary subject areas of conversation. We have now said my personal portion.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thank you so much for stating the piece. Additionally, six moments and 54 moments. Truly, rather impressive for you to get that out in that timeframe. I hardly ever really think about matchmaking. I think, probably, an opposite feeling of both you and your love to think about dating and discuss matchmaking and, like, end up being internet dating. I believe those are my views. Really, I’m giving a Drew-level vocals memo, a Drew-length voice memo now. I will deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I am aware that you do not think about internet dating, not everything me, perhaps significantly less than others I am aware?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I think about matchmaking under virtually anyone I additionally know. I don’t know. We really don’t know basically’ve came across anybody whon’t contemplate matchmaking as far as I do or in so far as I you should not, i suppose.

Drew:

We did not really know one another. We had been peers at Autostraddle, but for folks who don’t know, Autostraddle is actually a virtual a workplace. It really is a lot more of a Slack situation than a, each of us appear to like lesbian headquarters together with briefcases. That’s not really the vibe. We didn’t really know each other. Following, the beginning of pandemic, there seemed to be some DM sliding many relationship building plus some voice memoing. And we also would constantly joke it was like we’d a podcast because we’d send these long voice memos. Following when I was actually stoned, I became similar, “We in fact should.” And right here our company is.

Christina:

Yeah. I realize everything indicate by large a few ideas never becoming the greatest tactics, but i actually do have a really obvious remembrance of hearing you declare that and being like, “Yeah, obviously we must have a podcast. We have been performing per other. Why-not receive others into it?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Normally my high ideas are things such as, “Oh my Jesus, there must be a TV tv series known as

Find Your Own Superstar Dual,

in which you just take a hollywood immediately after which they meet somebody who — like an arbitrary individual that has actually their exact same delivery information. Which also, is one of my personal large tips that i believe could well be great. It’s like…

Christina:

Yeah, first, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.

Drew:

Which is a free of charge one. I don’t proper care.

Christina:

No, it isn’t. Drew, I’m acquiring you money, I am going to end up being your money supervisor regarding. Definitely not.

Drew:

I recently need to see these things worldwide. Essentially, this will be a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. And one of the reasons the reason why it’s that subject, in place of a variety of other things Christina and I discuss, is simply because I favor internet dating and Christina doesn’t love online dating and that is a fun small.

Christina:

Less of an admirer.

Drew:

And conflict is actually… this is where crisis happens. I believe Socrates said that.

Christina:

Positively.

Drew:

So in retrospect that is our subject. We will cover all sorts of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We will mention all of the most useful queer matchmaking conundrums, online dating via Instagram.

Drew, in sound video from future event:

Correct me personally if I’m incorrect, but I think Instagram is the greatest queer matchmaking application.

Shelli, in sound clip from future episode:

1000 %. Simple fact is that finest.

Christina, in sound clip from potential event:

I’ve heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in sound video from future occurrence:

Positively. It offers you actually all you need, unless of course somebody’s personal. But even though you’re exclusive, infant, I’ll see exactly about you, a means.

Drew, in audio video from potential event:

We’re going to discuss a gender we have ever had.

Dani, in audio clip from potential occurrence:

Right after which At long last asked like, “No, did you stepped on here to possess sex? Are we planning to have sexual intercourse?” And they were like, “Yeah, that’s what I wanted.” And it also ended up being like, the pet in addition to puppy happened to be in the area so there had been cat and dog hair every where. And I also ended up being like, definitely having an allergic effect while we were sex. The climax was, like, cook’s hug. It had been the most wonderful knowledge.

Drew, in audio clip from future occurrence:

Wow.

Christina, in audio video from future event:

I question when it’s something towards hives that actually included. Like slightly ‘jenesequa’ compared to that orgasm feel. It had been like, “Ooh, i am slightly itchy also.” We ask yourself how much cash that facets. We are making reference to how exactly to break-up with folks.

Ro, in sound clip from potential episode:

It is like a rather straight lifestyle thing, also.

Christina, in sound clip from future event:

Yeah.

Ro, in sound video from future occurrence:

At the least in my opinion, personally i think like… My personal right friends are those that happen to be more prone to say, “Well, shag that person. See your face sucks,” basically finish a relationship with some one. Whereas, queer folks in my life are the ones that are very likely to preserve relationships with exes or perhaps see our exes in a holistic means.

Christina, in audio video from future episode:

Everything you could contemplate in an online dating podcast, and I’m maybe not planning to sit to you personally people, additionally more. Significantly more than you can actually think about.

Drew, in sound video from future event:

When you are sexting via book, could it possibly be like what you want all of them… will you be carrying out role-plays of a scenario, like “you’re coming in contact with myself now” or “I wish you had been pressing,” exactly what tight tend to be we in?

Kayla, in audio clip from future occurrence:

Yeah, I happened to be likely to ask the exact same concern, really, because that’s something that’s constantly fascinating for me, especially even though many of us are article writers, also.

Christina, in audio clip from future episode:

I was planning state, several article authors like, “exactly what tight tend to be we operating?”

Kayla, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Point of view.

Christina, in sound video from future event:

It really is an in depth next, what’s taking place right here?

Kayla, in audio clip from future occurrence:

Like, strictly second?

Drew:

Discover the thing about queer folks. Without a doubt.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. This is your own TED Talk. Let’s set off.

Drew:

We now have numerous experiences and therefore are a lot more interesting. Only while I think about the method in which straight men and women explore internet dating, it’s very boring. And I think-so typically, queer dating talks are extensions with the conventional matchmaking discussion, but including things like “developing” and “very first time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” Its like — there is so much more nuance in so many more… Its so exciting. Exactly what some sort of that it is, queer gender and queer dating.

Christina:

We’ve taken like extremely traditional particular dull framework of heterosexual matchmaking and really brought it into a globe, filled with extended discussions and running the emotions. Its wonderful work.

Drew:

Yeah. I am actually thrilled and I also wish all of you are thrilled, because our very own first occurrence arrives a week from nowadays after which, there’ll be brand-new symptoms every Wednesday.

Christina:

It’s been 1 week until such time you’ll notice all of our podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you will not merely get

To L and Right Back

on Mondays, you’ll get

Hold Off, Is This A Night Out Together?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I co-host both, if you can’t stand me personally, i suppose you’re not enjoying Autostraddle podcasts. And in case you do just like me, you’re welcome.

Christina:

Also, if you don’t like Drew, develop, is what I have to say.

Drew:

I am not for everyone, I am okay with that. I think it’s probably best that you not be for everyone.

Christina:

Yes. I think that is entirely fair. And possibly a topic we could go over using one of our own potential attacks. What the results are when you are not for everyone? We adored that I went like, “Ooh, let us get this to all-inclusive.” What will happen as soon as you, we, as individuals. You said, why don’t we carry out an entire episode about, “What if I am not for everyone?”

Drew:

Really, it really is Leo period and I also’m a Leo climbing and I also decided making it about myself personally. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. thank-you a whole lot.

Drew:

Our company is dual Leo risings about podcast, that is certainly element of the reason why it’s going to be so great. It is possible to tune in to united states anywhere you pay attention to the podcast. It’s going to be a fairly regular podcast circumstance. Nothing elegant, no riddles must be solved to obtain the occurrence, it’s going to be there available.

Christina:

Not the supervisor of you. There are many options, carry out what you would.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, there is all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you can e-mail united states at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you can find me personally on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my name in the present tense.

Christina:

I have looked over your social media accounts often times and I also never, until this moment, discovered it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Well that is the thing, Drew had been used and that I have no idea how… Oh, I was internet dating some one that… in fact this person just who we dated, I didn’t get a large number of that union, except I stated this idea and she believed it absolutely was thus amusing, like as well amusing, really, like a portion of the problem, i do believe possibly. And I also had been encouraged to get it done, and it’s simply stuck.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Sometimes folks believe i am an aesthetic singer therefore know what, i enjoy end up being looked at by doing this, but I can’t, Really don’t obviously have design abilities.

Christina:

I shall say there is nothing much more about brand for Drew than becoming similar, “Oh, that is the Twitter handle.” And you being like, “in fact, its a funny story about matchmaking.”

Drew:

Certainly, precisely.

Christina:

Great.

Drew:

What are individual handles, and are also they linked to your intimate life?

Christina:

Just, no. You might get me personally at @c_gracet on twitter.com, website. Just in case you want to discover me personally on Instagram, you are able to do so, at @christina_gracet. And it is really fearless of me to understand my very own Instagram handle.

Drew:

Incredible work.

Christina:

Thanks plenty.

Drew:

It certainly is a joy to talk to both you and i am thus excited to plunge into all these interesting subject areas. As well as for our very own audience to get to understand us slightly much better and get to… In my opinion we can all, I think we’re all planning learn with this journey.

Christina:

I hope very. I enrolled in reading.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school course of podcasts. That managed to get seem like a complete bummer. Therefore sorry.

Drew:

I don’t know. I’d some excellent school courses.

Christina:

Obviously, Used To Do too, but I Really Don’t want to make anybody—

Drew:

Can you envisage just how remarkable it might be should you decide arrived towards university course and either folks ended up being your teacher, or we taught a class collectively, that’d become hottest thing ever before. Individuals could well be like…

Christina:

Preferred pass in town. Enrollment is off the data.

Drew:

Oh, we should have an episode which is focused on hot professors. That’s not relevant.

Christina:

That isn’t maybe not appropriate. We’ll say that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I’m like there is — you must make it only a little broader, but that knows? That knows what’s going to maintain tomorrow, and that’s truly interesting. And also you understand who’ll understand? You, listener, whenever you listen in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You stay tuned and also you crucially hit that outdated subscribe button and spend time with our team every Wednesday and get your self, “what exactly is a romantic date?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That delivers me to… I’m not sure. I became simply wanting to know… was this a romantic date?

Christina:

Drew, no. This is certainly a podcast trailer.

Drew:

Oh, sweet. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe I’m obtaining hang of it while know what’s fantastic, is the fact that because I inquired, now I know, and then directly in interaction is actually what it’s everything about.

Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

And one that the majority of folks in our neighborhood could learn. And in addition wewill, hopefully, this is really a site. This is exactly a reduced amount of a podcast and more of a political work.

Christina:

Wow. I wasn’t familiar with that, but I’m excited to find out that we’re having both a podcast and a political act. A couple of my personal favorite things. Two of the best factors to begin with P, podcasts and political acts.

Theme tune takes on.

Christina, in a voice memo:

In my opinion my personal instinct is if I like an individual and I also want them during my life, i understand the most effective way in my situation to ensure that they’re during my life is to ensure they are a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I am simply thus pleased that people’ve become this type of good friends. And in case from quarantine, that is what took place, I made this phenomenal brand-new friend, whom i really like dearly and I also’m merely pleased to speak with you usually, like exactly what a gift.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I experienced a thought also it moved away. It was honestly most likely actually brilliant.